Unemployed: Gotta Swallow Your Pride


“What do you do for a living?” I was asked by another soccer dad on the sideline.

I wanted to lie. I was unemployed in a new city & embarrassed.

Six months after moving across the country, my job vaporized.

A few months later with no income, I was living on fumes with two little boys & my wife depending on me.

I felt like a loser.

As I watched my 4 yr-old play “swarmball” with his little teammates, I wondered how I would provide for my young family.

Honestly answering the soccer dad’s question was almost too much. I paused. “I’m unemployed.” I ashamedly replied. (Lying would have only made me feel worse.) “What’s your background?” he asked. “I’ve turned around & run advertising agencies.” I responded.

“Send me your resume. I just reengineered the marketing department for a large bank. They’re looking for someone like you.” he said.

At one of my lowest moments in my life, a complete stranger’s question had the potential to dramatically change a desperate situation. Had I given into the pride that was tempting me to lie, I would have missed it.

Within a few weeks, I had a job offer with a raise & a signing bonus. Crazy.

20 years later, that soccer dad & I are still friends. I thank God for the kindness of a stranger & for the unexpected blessing of swallowing my pride.

(Via: Gary Frey: LinkedIn)